Life is all about best friend projects

Dear Ellie & Ari,

If you were asked to name three friends you could go to with any problem, who would make the list?
And if those you consider your close friends were asked to do the same, would you make their lists?
In my experience, don’t sweat the small stuff when it comes to friendships,
For life is all about best friend projects – giving your best to someone for as long as possible,
Improving their life as they do yours; playing your role in their story for as long as God intends,
And then passing the baton to the next person, participating in making the world that much better.

That friend who asked for a loan and is yet to repay is not necessarily taking advantage of you,
She remembers her promise to repay and feels embarrassed about not being able to keep it,
So maybe you can let that go, realising you didn’t need the money as much as she did.

That friend who lets his world know that he often has bad days is not attention-seeking or being weak,
He is saying that his mental illness would be easier to manage with true friends around him,
So reply to his messages and calls when he reaches out, for you are supposed to be his strength when he feels weak.

That friend who reaches out everyday is not a busybody or in lack of important things to do,
She is making use of the crutch you offered her on a journey to rebuilding trust in people and finding new friends,
So do the same so that she understands reciprocation and that relationships can be two-way and beautiful.

That friend who prefers talking to you instead of your entire circle is not shunning your important friendships,
He is opening up at this level because that’s what he finds comfortable and can manage right now,
So be there for him in private and in public, holding his hand as his circle of trust expands steadily.

That friend who told you he needed to step back in order to focus on other things is not tossing you aside,
He is giving something serious a shot and is counting on you to be understanding and be supportive,
So accept that the season is over and send him off with every blessing, knowing you did right by him.

So then, if you were asked to name three friends you could go to with any problem, who would make the list?
And if those you consider your close friends were asked to do the same, would you make their lists?
Friends come in all shapes, sizes, seasons and reasons; for money, time, a crutch, conversation, advice, space or time,
So go when needed, knowing for certain that when you help others, you too will be helped,
For life is all about best friend projects, some for a season and others for a lifetime,
Pass the baton to the next person when it’s time, knowing you participated in making the world that much better.